Embracing the winding road.

Hey there Friend!

While on a walk this morning I noticed something super odd and felt the need to share.. The road was very quiet like something you would see in a romantic christmas movie. You know that scene, where someone's heart has been broken right before christmas day and it seems like everyone has gone out of town or they are all cozy in their homes with loved ones and the only Person walking around is the broken hearted one. They walk around reminiscing and pondering on what went wrong, what could they have done differently and somehow the silence of the town allows them to connect all the dots. Well, That's exactly how I felt today! No one in sight, not even landscapers and if you know florida there's always someone working outdoors.

As the cold air hit my face and the leaves fell around me I began to reminisce about my life. Everything played in slow motion and I wondered if I was reminiscing because I'm only 2 months shy of turning 50 or maybe I am in the midst of a  midlife crisis. Perhaps these memories and  thoughts were all due to the recent change in career, leaving my stable corporate job to build a health and wellness business without a set plan or direction and fear was entering my life.

I noticed I began to ask myself questions about my decisions in life. Beginning with running away from my childhood home to live with my boyfriend, asking why did I sit in the abuse of that relationship for so long, how did I build the courage to leave and face the challenges of being a young single mother and finally finding true love, starting a family and the sudden addition of 4 more children. Yikes! sounds like a lot when it's summarized at once, I know.  The memories walked along with me  and while I looked down at my cold hands I realized how much time had passed. My hands reminded me that the young girl was no longer physically here and there was no reason to be afraid of the new challenges or adventures before me for I was now a women confident in her abilities with tons of experiences.

Just as I made a turn I found myself facing a winding road surrounded by beautiful trees that had embraced the seasonal change and that's when it hit me. I'm in a season of change, feeling fear and uncertainty yet all I have to do is embrace the winding road! Isn't it funny how Life is very much like that road ? Never straight forward, filled with unexpected turns, challenges, and  uncertainty of what lies ahead. However, once we take the road we begin to navigate the path  gaining the experience, getting better and better and before we know it we have reached our destination with persistence and resilience. My friend I will tell you as soon as I noticed that I was facing another winding road in my life fear subsided a bit. I began to shift the narrative by changing my thinking by using the 3 Rs model. If you have never heard of it or tried the 3 Rs model here it is.

• Recognise your limiting thoughts and patterns. (helps identify the root of fear)
• Release them by letting go of beliefs that no longer serve you. 
• Replace them with empowering thoughts that align with the life you desire.

By the time I got closer to home I noticed that I had spent the last hour reflecting about everything. The good, the bad, the personal growth as well as the lack of in certain areas. Truth be told no one is perfect and each day we live and learn no need to beat ourselves up. After working through the framework above I was feeling more confident and prepared to embrace my winding road. Friend, there are frameworks as the one I have mentioned here that will help us change out thinking patterns in order to create positive change in life. So as we finalize this 2024 I want to encourage you to take time to reflect and set intentions. Work through the framework to shift your thinking and stop feeling stuck. Awareness of what you are thinking is key, did  you know we have 70,000 thoughts a day and 90% of them are the same as yesterday unless you challenge it. Spot those patterns and break them. Ask yourself are they limiting or empowering you? Collect evidence,how real are the stories you are repeating.Choose new thoughts and reinforce the changes daily. 

Now don't go crazy !Start simple, Perhaps a morning gratitude writing or prayer, affirmations or visualize yourself living the life you desire. Lastly my friend take aligned actions and remember that it all starts with you because you Matter!

Know that you are not alone, we are all on a winding road let's embrace it even with all the detours, hills, stops and slow downs for life is forever evolving and true freedom, health and wellness begin with a shift in your mindset. Every action you take today will shape the life you have tomorrow. Don't be afraid to step out and live your dreams.

One love & Blessings

Coach Maddie

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